Theory: They Use Spies Against You
In a sick organization there are many types of people: the bullies that love to give others trouble, those that keep their mouths shut, those that play both sides against the middle, the political appointees that do not have to do much, the spies, the "slaves," the "token" people, the "pretty" people that are loved by many, the older ones who help others, the "jokesters" kept on, one or more "troublemakers," etc.
The power people of the sick organization maintain their spies which can come in many forms: A person appointed to assist you, a volunteer, a student/intern, those of the opposite sex, older workers nearing retirement, your life partner, those you thought were friends, etc. They all do the same -- spy on you for those in power in exchange for something in return. Their price can be a lax working environment, help on their studies/degree, possible promise of a full-time job, extra recognition, a quicker divorce settlement, extra benefits, trips, help to make sure they get their retirement, protection from lay-off, etc. Also retired military who want extra income without much work can be spies; they are used to taking orders from above and not thinking much about the orders.
How do you recognize them? The lowly worker who has the ear of the big boss, the worker who comes and goes as he wishes, the worker who spends his day visiting rather than working, the too eager volunteer that follows you everywhere, the pretty female who flirts with you, the nosy one who wants to know how everything works, the buddies that play tennis with the boss--- all could be spies. Another way to recognize them is that they do not appear to have ANY job worries like the rest of the staff.
Once you determine the identity of the spies, then you can start feeding them information you want to get back to the higher powers, or you can just put your information into the rumor mill where it will get to many. You never want to tell all the secrets of how you do your job so they can easily replace you. You can tell them minor problems that need fixing, some of your plans if you feel threatened, that you are willing to leave if the deal is good, and various other minor things, etc. Any major information/deals should be done direct with the powers of the sick organization.
Other spying can be done by getting copies of your emails, etc., and recordings of your phone calls. Various organizations may do one or both without telling you. Never put critical information (any personal or job information you want to keep private) in an email done through your organization's computers, or a call made from their phones, or through a wireless network that might be intercepted. Also remember that phones can now take pictures of you and record your words. When in doubt, do not let it (your secret/opinion) out. You should always act like someone is looking/listening over your shoulder; they are.
Never believe a spy at your job or his boss. If you are making a deal get it in writing, otherwise there is no real deal. Many find out too late that trusting the word of someone in a sick organization just does not work. Unless it is written down (or recorded) it is not said, and cannot be proved.
Adrian R. Lawler, Ph.D. , (C) 2012 --
Wednesday, May 16, 2012
Saturday, May 12, 2012
Theory: Show No Reaction or Anger to Their Evil
Theory: Show No Reaction or Anger to Their Evil
Victims of a sick organization must not show any reaction or anger at their attacks, hissy fits, slanders, and dirty tricks, but must remain calm, even if some bully nut spits in one's face during a hissy fit. The apparent no effect of their evil on the victim will drive the bullies/leaders of the sick organization crazy. A prime example of this type of passive resistance is Mahatma Gandi, who drove the British Empire crazy, and is now one of his nation's heroes.
Bully bosses feed off the reactions to their evil actions -- no reaction can cause them to increase their evil in hope of getting a reaction, but repeated (long term) no reactions by the victim will probably lead to less vicious attacks since they are no longer expecting /anticipating a reaction (as with Gandi).
The bullies in a sick organization will torment their victims in about any way they can. Some of the many things they might do: try to humiliate you or correct you in front of others, make you clean up after another's mess, give you the dirtiest jobs they can, make you work long hours, isolate you from others, steal your ideas and findings, leave you nasty notes, threaten your job and career frequently, try to make you a slave to their wants, have a hissy fit in your face, put their wagging finger in your face, get abusive if they do not get their way, take credit for your ideas or work, give someone else the credit for your ideas or work, slander you to students/interns and fellow workers, reduce your salary, reduce your benefits, take away your workers, take away your work locations, deny use of a computer, deny use of equipment, deny use of a secretary for typing, put a spy in your work crew, refuse your use of comp time, refuse sick time off, subject you to kangaroo court hearings and judgements, make you do things no one else has to do, call you crazy, make fun of you, accuse you of things you did not do, try to make you quit daily, and many, many more things that can torment you, deprive you of sleep at night, make you have bad dreams, make you sick, and cause a weak partner to leave you. You still must show no reaction or anger.
After they have done you some evil, keep records of their evil to use as potential ammo back at them on violating organization handbook, or laws. A record of the actions, sayings, witnesses, etc. of a bully can indicate the truth about a tormenter/bully and may help save your skin later. The daily "memo of record" should be kept on your body during working hours (keep it secure) and in a place away from your home after hours (a bad partner can use it against you during a split, or steal/destroy it if joining forces with sick organization against you). Remember that one of the worse things a sick organization tries to avoid is public exposure and negative publicity, and that is your main potential threat weapon against them.
You must have the threat of exposure available to use against them, but should avoid using exposure unless absolutely necessary. Once you expose them there will be a big fight, and since they have much more power than you in politics, media, and the organization in question, the "fix" is usually in to just get rid of you for any number of reasons they can make up or point to. Also, once you expose them you will have used at least part of your evidence against them and may not have enough big dirt (evidence) left to follow through in a lawsuit, hearing, investigation, etc.
Always give the higher bosses the first shot to try to correct a wrong ....... If they do something to correct the problem then you are ahead, if they do nothing to address a violation of the organization handbook, or some local, state, or federal law then you have MORE ammo you can use against them later. And you must have a good record so they cannot use that against you.
If you have reached your limit of bullying, lying, dirty tricks, and BS, then you have to decide (1) if you are willing to continue to take it (be their slave) and stay at the organization, (2) if you have enough evidence against them for wrongdoing to hold them at bay until you can retire or think of another way out, (3) if you can stand the stress of legal stuff if you try to expose their wrongdoings, or, (4) if it would be best to fold up and leave the sick organization.
If you show a reaction or anger they might try to use that against you in an insubordination charge against you. One must eat a lot of crow and take a lot of BS to survive for long in jobs today in all the many sick organizations around us.
Adrian R. Lawler, Ph.D., (C) 2012 --
Victims of a sick organization must not show any reaction or anger at their attacks, hissy fits, slanders, and dirty tricks, but must remain calm, even if some bully nut spits in one's face during a hissy fit. The apparent no effect of their evil on the victim will drive the bullies/leaders of the sick organization crazy. A prime example of this type of passive resistance is Mahatma Gandi, who drove the British Empire crazy, and is now one of his nation's heroes.
Bully bosses feed off the reactions to their evil actions -- no reaction can cause them to increase their evil in hope of getting a reaction, but repeated (long term) no reactions by the victim will probably lead to less vicious attacks since they are no longer expecting /anticipating a reaction (as with Gandi).
The bullies in a sick organization will torment their victims in about any way they can. Some of the many things they might do: try to humiliate you or correct you in front of others, make you clean up after another's mess, give you the dirtiest jobs they can, make you work long hours, isolate you from others, steal your ideas and findings, leave you nasty notes, threaten your job and career frequently, try to make you a slave to their wants, have a hissy fit in your face, put their wagging finger in your face, get abusive if they do not get their way, take credit for your ideas or work, give someone else the credit for your ideas or work, slander you to students/interns and fellow workers, reduce your salary, reduce your benefits, take away your workers, take away your work locations, deny use of a computer, deny use of equipment, deny use of a secretary for typing, put a spy in your work crew, refuse your use of comp time, refuse sick time off, subject you to kangaroo court hearings and judgements, make you do things no one else has to do, call you crazy, make fun of you, accuse you of things you did not do, try to make you quit daily, and many, many more things that can torment you, deprive you of sleep at night, make you have bad dreams, make you sick, and cause a weak partner to leave you. You still must show no reaction or anger.
After they have done you some evil, keep records of their evil to use as potential ammo back at them on violating organization handbook, or laws. A record of the actions, sayings, witnesses, etc. of a bully can indicate the truth about a tormenter/bully and may help save your skin later. The daily "memo of record" should be kept on your body during working hours (keep it secure) and in a place away from your home after hours (a bad partner can use it against you during a split, or steal/destroy it if joining forces with sick organization against you). Remember that one of the worse things a sick organization tries to avoid is public exposure and negative publicity, and that is your main potential threat weapon against them.
You must have the threat of exposure available to use against them, but should avoid using exposure unless absolutely necessary. Once you expose them there will be a big fight, and since they have much more power than you in politics, media, and the organization in question, the "fix" is usually in to just get rid of you for any number of reasons they can make up or point to. Also, once you expose them you will have used at least part of your evidence against them and may not have enough big dirt (evidence) left to follow through in a lawsuit, hearing, investigation, etc.
Always give the higher bosses the first shot to try to correct a wrong ....... If they do something to correct the problem then you are ahead, if they do nothing to address a violation of the organization handbook, or some local, state, or federal law then you have MORE ammo you can use against them later. And you must have a good record so they cannot use that against you.
If you have reached your limit of bullying, lying, dirty tricks, and BS, then you have to decide (1) if you are willing to continue to take it (be their slave) and stay at the organization, (2) if you have enough evidence against them for wrongdoing to hold them at bay until you can retire or think of another way out, (3) if you can stand the stress of legal stuff if you try to expose their wrongdoings, or, (4) if it would be best to fold up and leave the sick organization.
If you show a reaction or anger they might try to use that against you in an insubordination charge against you. One must eat a lot of crow and take a lot of BS to survive for long in jobs today in all the many sick organizations around us.
Adrian R. Lawler, Ph.D., (C) 2012 --
Wednesday, May 9, 2012
Theory: How Great We Are
Theory: How Great We Are
Since a sick organization does not usually accomplish much, they have to churn out publicity so it looks like they are doing great work for the taxpayer/stockholder dollar. They place major significance to minor findings/discoveries, and rush to get media PR out.
As per any political organization, only their "truth" is submitted to the media. They allow no opposing thought to come from their organization, which might "confuse" the issue, and might even make some of the public think about the issue. They want the public to accept their word as the pure gospel.
Sometimes a "great" leader quits, and, in order to further the BS, and the PR on greatness, writes articles about his buddies and how great they are for the organization. This helps solidify their positions in the organization, is pay-back for their support when he was the leader, and keeps him in the pool of "greatness."
Sometimes they try to make out they are the foundation of the organization, when in fact, they are a brick or less each, and on a side wall. They call themselves "pioneers," when the true pioneers came many years ago and established the organization. They do not acknowledge those that came before, or others there now that are doing things of equal or better significance.
They go around telling all who will listen that they are "world-class" in their work and position. In my opinion, "world-class" is not a status determined by the workers themselves, but by the observations and opinions of those from outside the organization as they judge the work done. In my opinion, those that go around tooting "we are world-class" are NOT world-class.
They refuse to acknowledge others that they do not like that have contributed as much or more than them. They hate to share credit, limelight, spotlight, stage, etc. with those they do not like, so they will conspire to get PR for themselves and diverted away from those not liked.
Their arrogance is obvious and they consider themselves so great they must have the best office, best view, best work area, best PR, best consideration and support, and the best of everything possible because they "deserve it."
If you are classed as a troublemaker. or one of his/her supporters, you will never get proper credit for your efforts or correct publicity for your work. How can YOU be any good?? You're the troublemaker.
Sometimes the BS is so great, and the embellishment so much that it affects those people who must compose and release such PR to the media. For example: One PR person got so disgusted about the false information and highly politicized-embellished publicity the person had to put out to the media about how great the bully tyrants were that the person had to go on tranquilizers, and finally quit.
Some thoughts by Lawler
They give each other "awards" to try to convince others & public on how important they are.
Those that toot their horns the loudest are usually the biggest blowhards ......
Now some are putting out PR hype calling themselves "pioneers" -- BS -- the real pioneers started the joint many years ago.
They will re-write history of the organization to exclude those they do not like and put themselves at the top of the organization's heroes.
"Great" leader of sick organization quits, & thus buries last bit of poo about him/her before exposure, saving some face.
Many are so firmly stuck in believing lies they will not even consider believing the truth.
Adrian R. Lawler, Ph.D., (C) 2012
Since a sick organization does not usually accomplish much, they have to churn out publicity so it looks like they are doing great work for the taxpayer/stockholder dollar. They place major significance to minor findings/discoveries, and rush to get media PR out.
As per any political organization, only their "truth" is submitted to the media. They allow no opposing thought to come from their organization, which might "confuse" the issue, and might even make some of the public think about the issue. They want the public to accept their word as the pure gospel.
Sometimes a "great" leader quits, and, in order to further the BS, and the PR on greatness, writes articles about his buddies and how great they are for the organization. This helps solidify their positions in the organization, is pay-back for their support when he was the leader, and keeps him in the pool of "greatness."
Sometimes they try to make out they are the foundation of the organization, when in fact, they are a brick or less each, and on a side wall. They call themselves "pioneers," when the true pioneers came many years ago and established the organization. They do not acknowledge those that came before, or others there now that are doing things of equal or better significance.
They go around telling all who will listen that they are "world-class" in their work and position. In my opinion, "world-class" is not a status determined by the workers themselves, but by the observations and opinions of those from outside the organization as they judge the work done. In my opinion, those that go around tooting "we are world-class" are NOT world-class.
They refuse to acknowledge others that they do not like that have contributed as much or more than them. They hate to share credit, limelight, spotlight, stage, etc. with those they do not like, so they will conspire to get PR for themselves and diverted away from those not liked.
Their arrogance is obvious and they consider themselves so great they must have the best office, best view, best work area, best PR, best consideration and support, and the best of everything possible because they "deserve it."
If you are classed as a troublemaker. or one of his/her supporters, you will never get proper credit for your efforts or correct publicity for your work. How can YOU be any good?? You're the troublemaker.
Sometimes the BS is so great, and the embellishment so much that it affects those people who must compose and release such PR to the media. For example: One PR person got so disgusted about the false information and highly politicized-embellished publicity the person had to put out to the media about how great the bully tyrants were that the person had to go on tranquilizers, and finally quit.
Some thoughts by Lawler
They give each other "awards" to try to convince others & public on how important they are.
Those that toot their horns the loudest are usually the biggest blowhards ......
Now some are putting out PR hype calling themselves "pioneers" -- BS -- the real pioneers started the joint many years ago.
They will re-write history of the organization to exclude those they do not like and put themselves at the top of the organization's heroes.
"Great" leader of sick organization quits, & thus buries last bit of poo about him/her before exposure, saving some face.
Many are so firmly stuck in believing lies they will not even consider believing the truth.
Adrian R. Lawler, Ph.D., (C) 2012
Wednesday, May 2, 2012
Theory: Sick Organization Leader Quits
Theory: Sick Organization Leader Quits
Leaders of various sick organizations around the world quit all the time for various reasons. Sometimes the quitting comes without warning, or obvious/explained reason, and sometimes the quitting is expected/wanted by many for a good while. In one case, a worker going to the retirement party of the leader of a sick organization said the reason he was going to the party was "to make sure he was leaving."
Some of the reasons for quitting can be tired of the constant BS and turmoil, of always trying to control and handle and get work out of crazy/lazy people, of constantly seeking money/profit to keep organization going, of having to act out a part to the public and politicians, and trying to escape being exposed, to avoid a lawsuit, to beat getting fired, to leave a positive legacy, to avoid a breakdown, etc. In other cases the leader could be forced out by higher bosses because he lost his composure/temper and embarassed the organization and showed he could not control even himself, because he did not follow the leadership directions wanted by higher bosses, because he could not do the job, because products/profits were not enough, etc.
The quitting reasons released/given are varied, and usually do not reflect the true reasons, which are usually hidden to avoid any negative publicity getting out to the public.
Some reasons (true or not) given by a sick organization for a leader of a sick organization quitting can be as follows: accomplished goals, taking on another challenge elsewhere, for personal reasons, for health reasons, going to pursue different things, time for a new direction, returning to teaching, going to retire, going to write, etc. It is rarely noted that a leader was forced out or fired.
The real reasons for quitting/forcing out are generally two: 1. The higher bosses are tired of the leader's mistakes, etc. 2. The leader is tired of what he is doing.
The leader usually wants to quit while still on top, before any scandal/lawsuit involving him/her gets out, and before any decrease in positive publicity/legacy occurs.
Sometimes a temporary leader is put in place until the new leader can be selected. Higher powers do not want much change going on during the time of the temporary leader, so sometimes they get a past leader out of retirement to fill in that does not do much except smile a lot and act happy. Such a past leader is usually known for going down the middle of the road, telling each side to cool it and wait for future changes (which never come), hoping problem will die down, but never really solving the problem. Such a leader is perfect for what they want, no changes.
The sick organization finds a new leader that, surprise - surprise, has many of the same leadership characteristics of the previous leaders. So he/she fits right in with the continuing controlling political operation of the organization. And the sick organization keeps on staying sick ........and operating as before..........
Some of Lawler's thoughts on sick leaders quitting: Even the leader of a sick organization can tire of constantly burying the poo, and quit.
"Great" leader of sick organization quits, & thus buries last bit of poo about him/her before public exposure, saving some face.
When a person either quits or dies, others lie about them on the positive side the most, saying how "Great" they were.
"Great" leader of sick organization quit before the mountain of poo buried him/her & their "great" legacy.
Even "great" leaders of a sick organization can tire of the constant BS they must keep control of & dole out to others.
When you are dealing with humans, crazy humans, and crazier humans the BS never stops.
Once a leader of a sick organization throws a hissy fit, and thus proves he cannot even control himself, the higher bosses know they have a problem and need a new leader.
Even the leader of a sick organization can tire of having more ruthless bosses than him controlling his life.
One leader quitting said "I'm just tired." Apparently response from one who is tired of the constant BS of dealing with crazy/lazy people.
An organization is only as good at that moment as the worse one of their organization getting negative publicity.
Adrian R. Lawler, Ph.D., (C) 2012 --
Leaders of various sick organizations around the world quit all the time for various reasons. Sometimes the quitting comes without warning, or obvious/explained reason, and sometimes the quitting is expected/wanted by many for a good while. In one case, a worker going to the retirement party of the leader of a sick organization said the reason he was going to the party was "to make sure he was leaving."
Some of the reasons for quitting can be tired of the constant BS and turmoil, of always trying to control and handle and get work out of crazy/lazy people, of constantly seeking money/profit to keep organization going, of having to act out a part to the public and politicians, and trying to escape being exposed, to avoid a lawsuit, to beat getting fired, to leave a positive legacy, to avoid a breakdown, etc. In other cases the leader could be forced out by higher bosses because he lost his composure/temper and embarassed the organization and showed he could not control even himself, because he did not follow the leadership directions wanted by higher bosses, because he could not do the job, because products/profits were not enough, etc.
The quitting reasons released/given are varied, and usually do not reflect the true reasons, which are usually hidden to avoid any negative publicity getting out to the public.
Some reasons (true or not) given by a sick organization for a leader of a sick organization quitting can be as follows: accomplished goals, taking on another challenge elsewhere, for personal reasons, for health reasons, going to pursue different things, time for a new direction, returning to teaching, going to retire, going to write, etc. It is rarely noted that a leader was forced out or fired.
The real reasons for quitting/forcing out are generally two: 1. The higher bosses are tired of the leader's mistakes, etc. 2. The leader is tired of what he is doing.
The leader usually wants to quit while still on top, before any scandal/lawsuit involving him/her gets out, and before any decrease in positive publicity/legacy occurs.
Sometimes a temporary leader is put in place until the new leader can be selected. Higher powers do not want much change going on during the time of the temporary leader, so sometimes they get a past leader out of retirement to fill in that does not do much except smile a lot and act happy. Such a past leader is usually known for going down the middle of the road, telling each side to cool it and wait for future changes (which never come), hoping problem will die down, but never really solving the problem. Such a leader is perfect for what they want, no changes.
The sick organization finds a new leader that, surprise - surprise, has many of the same leadership characteristics of the previous leaders. So he/she fits right in with the continuing controlling political operation of the organization. And the sick organization keeps on staying sick ........and operating as before..........
Some of Lawler's thoughts on sick leaders quitting: Even the leader of a sick organization can tire of constantly burying the poo, and quit.
"Great" leader of sick organization quits, & thus buries last bit of poo about him/her before public exposure, saving some face.
When a person either quits or dies, others lie about them on the positive side the most, saying how "Great" they were.
"Great" leader of sick organization quit before the mountain of poo buried him/her & their "great" legacy.
Even "great" leaders of a sick organization can tire of the constant BS they must keep control of & dole out to others.
When you are dealing with humans, crazy humans, and crazier humans the BS never stops.
Once a leader of a sick organization throws a hissy fit, and thus proves he cannot even control himself, the higher bosses know they have a problem and need a new leader.
Even the leader of a sick organization can tire of having more ruthless bosses than him controlling his life.
One leader quitting said "I'm just tired." Apparently response from one who is tired of the constant BS of dealing with crazy/lazy people.
An organization is only as good at that moment as the worse one of their organization getting negative publicity.
Adrian R. Lawler, Ph.D., (C) 2012 --
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